Wednesday, June 20, 2012

Why hit a man if you don't want him to hit you back?

I never condone a man putting his hands on a woman, so before I get into my story I just want to make that abundantly clear. There is just something that women do that I don't understand. Why is it okay for you to be slapping and punching on this man, but as soon as he slaps your ass back you want to have him locked up? I gotta say that men have a bad wrap when they are put in this situation. Yeah I know most people would say "he's the man, he's stronger than her so he should never hit a woman." This is very true, but believe it or not there is a such thing as a man being physically abused by his wife or girlfriend. I feel like if you have the balls to hit a man, you should be preparing yourself for the slap of your life.

Back in Ohio I knew a woman (who we can call Sabrina), she and I weren't friends but we knew one another from around the way. Sabrina had a boyfriend (we'll just call him Anthony) who fathered her 2 children. Sabrina and Anthony were known for their domestic disputes, because they were always drawn out into the street as a public display for the neighborhood to watch. Sabrina slapped on Anthony pretty regularly. It would always seem as though Sabrina wanted her business in the street, because she would primarily be the one in the street doing most of the yelling and screaming. It was like she enjoyed it when people watched her smack her man around. Well one summer day lots of people were out in our neighborhood, it wasn't too hot out so our block was packed with people. From where my friends and I are sitting we could see Sabrina and Anthony's door to their apartment. Without warning Sabrina comes flying out the house hollering and screaming things at Anthony. She said things like "I can't stand you you bitch!" "That's why A.J. isn't your son." things that would make a man want to slap a bitch. While she's yelling and screaming he comes outside and says "Sabrina come in the house, just come in the house." Sabrina yells "Fuck you you stupid mutherfucker!" and she smacks him in his face. By this time they have the attention of the entire neighborhood, Dominoes game was put on pause, conversations were brought to a halt, and somebody even turned the music down. After grabbing the attention of the "Hood" Sabrina decides the one smack isn't enough and starts to repeatedly hit Anthony in the face and body. Now he's not just letting her hit him he was shielding himself from her blows but she did catch him with a few good ones. She caught him with one so good that he finally had enough, he draws back from Africa, slapped her so hard with his back hand, that her body instantly dropped and she laid lifeless on the ground. Nobody moved, nobody said a word, everyone just stayed still. Now I ain't gonna lie I was scared for her at first because it wasn't clear for like the first 60 seconds if she was even alive. Slowly but surely though she began to move around a bit and make a few whimpering noises. When she finally pulled herself up off of the ground, she looked around because everybody was still staring at her. You could tell by the look on her face she was very embarrassed, and also in pain. Finally she starts yelling to the crowds "How ya'll just gonna let him hit me?!" "That's fucked up ya'll just gonna let him hit me like that!" It was silent for a couple more seconds and then you could hear a woman in the distance say "It's fucked up you said what you said to that man and you put your hands on him first...You got what you deserved." When she said that I thought, damn she's kinda right. That girl flips on him all the time, and if she's big enough to hit him she's big enough to get the fire smacked out of her. Sabrina stood there for a couple more seconds, looks at Anthony, bursts out crying and runs back in the house. Then I thought to myself, damn everybody out here must have felt the same way. That's why nobody came to her defense, they felt she had this one coming. We didn't see many arguments from those two after that day, and we definitely never saw or heard of her hitting him again. So I guess she learned her lesson. It sucks she had to get the shit smacked outta her for her to chill, but I guess some people need a real wake up call, in this case a smack up call. You should only be touching your husband, wife, girlfriend or boyfriend with loving hands, never with violent ones. LOVE one another.


1 comment:

  1. i do not condone hitting on either side but i was raised by my grand parents and they had 8 children three sons and 5 daughters, and my grandmother told me one day if a women puts herself in that position to get hit, by a man especially if the man never ever placed violent hands on her ever, and she is repeatedly hitting and disrespecting, people lose it male or female, glad no one died but he got his point across not saying it was right but she was always wrong to hit that man like that